Denial...

The process of Denial is a part of the process of Acceptance...

"and I mean accepting that your child is perfect in every way. Perfect does not mean the same for everyone but you know he is perfect that is all that matters. Every child learns/socializes differently and unfortunately society is set up to teach children to learn and socialize a specific way. Your child may need some extra help to do what other people decide is "normal"...But it is OK that your child has some differences in their learning style. That means nothing at the end of the day when he cuddles up to you and says, 'Mommy I love you.' So, you can deny that other people say he is 'special' or you can accept him as special and perfect.

The folks that will be working with him are not there to change him, but to help HIM to use HIS style of learning in a society that learns differently. They teach your child that society is different, not him...and they help give him (and you) the confidence to prove it to others by allowing him to learn in his own special way. The specialists are not only helping your child, they help to teach you and others working with him that your child learns THIS way and WE teach differently. So WE need to change the way WE teach...not visa versa.


I have only learned this through my experiences with Maddie. I have great respect for her workers.THEY have been the ones who have given me the ability to ACCEPT that Maddie is PERFECT and that I need to change the way I was teach her based on HER style of learning. I was/am the one who is different, not her.

*This was the reply email I sent to a friend today about my own experiences with denial.